Dissociation is a powerful survival tool, or tool against going batshit crazy. This has been one of my secrets for getting through the past couple of years and being able to maintain a productive adult life professionally and socially. This is what I want to explain to friends when they say “I don’t know how you do it”
I learned to dissociate when my father is in town. He always wants to talk about serious stuff that I can’t think about right now. He asked me about some things that he should ask my husband about but doesn’t feel comfortable asking him about, so he confronts me instead. I agreed with him that my husband’s actions had been irresponsible, but I stopped the conversation short by saying “it has nothing to do with me”. That’s it. I don’t want to talk about it I don’t want to think about it. I have a life to live and I need to move forward.